So I am watching Super Nanny rigfht not, and there is this mom of 3 who hits and spanks her kids so much, that they just laugh at her, or scream in her face. The dad goes to work, and then comes home and goes to the gym, and does basically whatever he wants to do, leaving the mom feeling helpless. As a mom, I can sympathesize.
Ok, so the nanny is now establishing "Kid's Rules"
1. Listen to your parents
2. Speak kindly to eachother
3. Please do as you are told
4. Be polite to eachother
5. Keep your own room clean
Intimidation and threats do not work. Positive reinforcement is rewarding and fin. The nanny set achievable goals in a specific amount of time. "You have 15 minutes to clean your room." Then they timed the room cleaning. After that, they were allowed to play outside. Boom! The room was clean in 15 minutes, and then the entire family went outside to play. What a great idea!! It is amazing to see what can be done when you speak respectfully to children and apply the concept of positive reinforcement.
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I think that spanking is generally wrong. All it does is hurt your child and teach them to deal with conflict by hitting.
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